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Stack of books including Untangled by Lisa Damour, Four Thousand Weeks, Braiding Sweetgrass, and Hope for Cynics beside a pink clock and reading glasses on a sage green desk

Summer Shouldn’t Become Another Performance Season

As summer approaches, it can be tempting to think of these months as something to optimize. Take the ...
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College counselor Dot Kowal holding Never Enough by Jennifer Breheny Wallace while speaking with a parent about high school readiness

A different way to think about high school

In middle school, close involvement is usually exactly what is needed. Parents are still managing a lot behind ...
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Parent and teen reviewing a college application checklist together on a laptop, supporting a student with ADHD without taking over.

Three College Application Mistakes Students Make and How Parents Can Avoid Making Them Worse

Is your student with ADHD or executive function challenges getting overwhelmed by the college application process and pushing ...
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The College Process Is the Mirror We Didn’t Know We Signed Up For

Parenting through college admissions isn’t just about helping our kids grow up — it’s about practicing the art ...
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Beyond the Score: What the Data — and Experts — Reveal About Supporting Teens in College Admissions

The latest NACAC findings and leading voices like Jennifer Wallace and Lisa Damour show why rethinking achievement pressure ...
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Why I Never Write Essays for Students — But How I Ensure Their Authentic Voice Shines

Because what matters most isn’t polish — it’s authenticity, honesty, and voice. Every year, as college application season ...
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13 Years in College Counseling: What I’ve Learned About Families and Anxiety

After a nearly a decade and a half in elite schools, here’s what I’ve learned about families, pressure, ...
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Don’t let high school happen to you. Shape it — thoughtfully, humanely, and with purpose.

— Dot Kowal, Kowal College Counseling

Watch & learn.

Just two education professionals in the college prep space mindmelding on some fun questions!

Faiza Riaz
@nowtestprep Managing Director of Outreach
Elite 1:1 Tutoring, Mentorship & Proven Results

Dot Kowal
@college_with_dot Holistic college counselor, educator, and former independent school leader
Helping students grow into confident, self-aware young adults

Parents, what song would YOU pick as the current soundtrack to your high schooler’s college process? We can’t wait to see your answers! 

#CollegeCounselor #HighSchoolStudents #CollegeAdmissions

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I recently saw Sleater-Kinney and Liz Phair in concert, and thought, “Why do I love them so much?”. The answer came to me so clearly: They teach us to be unafraid.

Gen X parents, pass a little bit of this wisdom on to your teenagers today – and please, school them on some really good music from our generation!

#CollegeCounselor #LizPhair #SleaterKinney

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Easier said than done, but trust me on this one: Don’t melt down when your teenager melts down. 

Parents of 9th graders, tell me: has this happened in your house since high school has started? 9th grade is a year of transformation, and while there can be huge growth, it’s not without its obstacles. That’s one of the reasons why I like to start my college counseling work with students Freshman year, providing support along the journey and preparing them for the rest of high school and beyond with the long term vision in mind.

If you’ve got a Freshman who could use some support, don’t hesitate to reach out. Schedule an introductory call at the link in my bio.

#CollegeCounselor #HighSchoolStudents #CollegeAdmissions

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9th grade is rife with opportunities for disappointment. Has your family been dealing with this yet? 

The good news is that there’s actually a bright side to this disappointment. Even if it’s not easy to see right now, this is an opening. A chance to figure out who they could become.

If you have a 9th grader that could use some long term support through their high school journey as they work toward their future, don’t be a stranger. You can schedule an intro call at the link in my bio, or shoot me a message.

#CollegeCounselor #9thGraders #HighSchoolFreshman

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She made the entire process feel doable, not stressful. I'm truly grateful for her support.

— Callie D., San Diego State
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Dot truly changed the way I looked at the college process and my high school path in general.

— Amaya Q., Columbia University
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We are so grateful for Dot's calm demeanor and unwavering belief in our child's potential.

— Steve & Rebecca F., Parents